可以添加builder.show（）；在返回之前的验证消息之后；

这样地

    public void login()
{
    final AlertDialog.Builder builder = new AlertDialog.Builder(this);
    builder.setView(R.layout.login_layout);
    builder.setTitle("Login");



    builder.setNegativeButton("Cancel", new DialogInterface.OnClickListener()
    {
        @Override
        public void onClick(DialogInterface dialog, int id)
        {
            dialog.cancel();
        }
    });// put the negative button before the positive button, so it will appear

    builder.setPositiveButton("Ok", new DialogInterface.OnClickListener()
    {
        @Override
        public void onClick(DialogInterface dialog, int id)
        {
            Dialog d = (Dialog) dialog;
            final EditText etUserName = (EditText) d.findViewById(R.id.etLoginName);
            final EditText etPassword = (EditText) d.findViewById(R.id.etLoginPassword);
            String userName = etUserName.getText().toString().trim();
            String password = etPassword.getText().toString().trim();

            if (userName.isEmpty() || password.isEmpty())
            {

                Toast.makeText(getApplicationContext(),
                        "Please Fill all fields", Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show();
                builder.show();// here after validation message before retrun
                               //  it will reopen the dialog
                              // till the user enter the right condition
                return;
            }

            user = Manager.get(getApplicationContext()).getUserByName(userName);

            if (user == null)
            {
                Toast.makeText(getApplicationContext(),
                        "Error ethier username or password are wrong", Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show();
                builder.show();
                return;
            }
            if (password.equals(user.getPassword()))
            {
                etPassword.setText("");
                etUserName.setText("");
                setLogged(1);
                setLoggedId(user.getUserId());
                Toast.makeText(getApplicationContext(),
                        "Successfully logged in", Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show();
               dialog.dismiss();// if every thing is ok then dismiss the dialog
            }
            else
            {
                Toast.makeText(getApplicationContext(),
                        "Error ethier username or password are wrong", Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show();
                builder.show();
                return;
            }

        }
    });

    builder.show();

}

为DialogFragment使用自定义布局，并在内容下添加LinearLayout，该布局可以设置为无边框，以匹配Google Material Design。然后找到新创建的按钮并覆盖其OnClickListener。

例子：

public class AddTopicFragment extends DialogFragment {

    @Override
    public Dialog onCreateDialog(Bundle savedInstanceState) {
        final AlertDialog.Builder builder = new AlertDialog.Builder(getActivity());
        // Get the layout inflater
        LayoutInflater inflater = getActivity().getLayoutInflater();
        final View dialogView = inflater.inflate(R.layout.dialog_add_topic, null);

        Button saveTopicDialogButton = (Button) dialogView.findViewById(R.id.saveTopicDialogButton);
        Button cancelSaveTopicDialogButton = (Button) dialogView.findViewById(R.id.cancelSaveTopicDialogButton);

        final AppCompatEditText addTopicNameET = (AppCompatEditText) dialogView.findViewById(R.id.addTopicNameET);
        final AppCompatEditText addTopicCreatedByET = (AppCompatEditText) dialogView.findViewById(R.id.addTopicCreatedByET);

        saveTopicDialogButton.setOnClickListener(new View.OnClickListener() {
            @Override
            public void onClick(View v) {
                // validate inputs
                if(addTopicNameET.getText().toString().trim().isEmpty()){
                    addTopicNameET.setError("Topic name can't be empty");
                    addTopicNameET.requestFocus();
                }else if(addTopicCreatedByET.getText().toString().trim().isEmpty()){
                    addTopicCreatedByET.setError("Topic created by can't be empty");
                    addTopicCreatedByET.requestFocus();
                }else {
                    // save topic to database
                    Topic topic = new Topic();
                    topic.name = addTopicNameET.getText().toString().trim();
                    topic.createdBy = addTopicCreatedByET.getText().toString().trim();
                    topic.createdDate = new Date().getTime();
                    topic.save();
                    AddTopicFragment.this.dismiss();
                }
            }
        });

        cancelSaveTopicDialogButton.setOnClickListener(new View.OnClickListener() {
            @Override
            public void onClick(View v) {
                AddTopicFragment.this.dismiss();
            }
        });

        // Inflate and set the layout for the dialog
        // Pass null as the parent view because its going in the dialog layout
        builder.setView(dialogView)
               .setMessage(getString(R.string.add_topic_message));

        return builder.create();
    }

}

dialog_add_topic.xml：

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
    xmlns:app="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res-auto"
    android:orientation="vertical"
    android:padding="@dimen/activity_horizontal_margin"
    android:layout_width="match_parent"
    android:layout_height="match_parent">

    <android.support.design.widget.TextInputLayout
        android:layout_width="match_parent"
        android:layout_height="wrap_content"
        app:errorEnabled="true">

        <android.support.v7.widget.AppCompatEditText
            android:id="@+id/addTopicNameET"
            android:layout_width="match_parent"
            android:layout_height="wrap_content"
            android:hint="Topic Name"
            android:inputType="textPersonName"
            android:maxLines="1" />

    </android.support.design.widget.TextInputLayout>

    <android.support.design.widget.TextInputLayout
        android:layout_width="match_parent"
        android:layout_height="wrap_content"
        app:errorEnabled="true">

        <android.support.v7.widget.AppCompatEditText
            android:id="@+id/addTopicCreatedByET"
            android:layout_width="match_parent"
            android:layout_height="wrap_content"
            android:hint="Created By"
            android:inputType="textPersonName"
            android:maxLines="1" />

    </android.support.design.widget.TextInputLayout>

    <LinearLayout
        android:layout_width="match_parent"
        android:layout_height="wrap_content"
        android:orientation="horizontal">
        <Button
            android:text="@string/cancel"
            android:layout_weight="1"
            android:layout_width="match_parent"
            android:layout_height="wrap_content"
            android:id="@+id/cancelSaveTopicDialogButton"
            style="@style/Widget.AppCompat.Button.ButtonBar.AlertDialog" />

        <Button
            android:text="@string/save"
            android:layout_weight="1"
            android:layout_width="match_parent"
            android:layout_height="wrap_content"
            android:id="@+id/saveTopicDialogButton"
            style="@style/Widget.AppCompat.Button.ButtonBar.AlertDialog" />

    </LinearLayout>


</LinearLayout>

这是最终结果。

它可以用最简单的方法构建：

带有自定义视图和两个按钮（正和负）的警报对话框。

AlertDialog.Builder builder = new AlertDialog.Builder(getActivity()).setTitle(getString(R.string.select_period));
builder.setPositiveButton(getString(R.string.ok), null);

 builder.setNegativeButton(getString(R.string.cancel), new DialogInterface.OnClickListener() {
    @Override
    public void onClick(DialogInterface dialog, int which) {

    // Click of Cancel Button

   }
 });

  LayoutInflater li = LayoutInflater.from(getActivity());
  View promptsView = li.inflate(R.layout.dialog_date_picker, null, false);
  builder.setView(promptsView);

  DatePicker startDatePicker = (DatePicker)promptsView.findViewById(R.id.startDatePicker);
  DatePicker endDatePicker = (DatePicker)promptsView.findViewById(R.id.endDatePicker);

  final AlertDialog alertDialog = builder.create();
  alertDialog.show();

  Button theButton = alertDialog.getButton(DialogInterface.BUTTON_POSITIVE);
  theButton.setOnClickListener(new CustomListener(alertDialog, startDatePicker, endDatePicker));

警报日志正面按钮的CustomClickLister：

private class CustomListener implements View.OnClickListener {
        private final Dialog dialog;
        private DatePicker mStartDp, mEndDp;
    public CustomListener(Dialog dialog, DatePicker dS, DatePicker dE) {
        this.dialog = dialog;
        mStartDp = dS;
        mEndDp = dE;
    }

    @Override
    public void onClick(View v) {

        int day1  = mStartDp.getDayOfMonth();
        int month1= mStartDp.getMonth();
        int year1 = mStartDp.getYear();
        Calendar cal1 = Calendar.getInstance();
        cal1.set(Calendar.YEAR, year1);
        cal1.set(Calendar.MONTH, month1);
        cal1.set(Calendar.DAY_OF_MONTH, day1);


        int day2  = mEndDp.getDayOfMonth();
        int month2= mEndDp.getMonth();
        int year2 = mEndDp.getYear();
        Calendar cal2 = Calendar.getInstance();
        cal2.set(Calendar.YEAR, year2);
        cal2.set(Calendar.MONTH, month2);
        cal2.set(Calendar.DAY_OF_MONTH, day2);

        if(cal2.getTimeInMillis()>=cal1.getTimeInMillis()){
            dialog.dismiss();
            Log.i("Dialog", "Dismiss");
            // Condition is satisfied so do dialog dismiss
            }else {
            Log.i("Dialog", "Do not Dismiss");
            // Condition is not satisfied so do not dialog dismiss
        }

    }
}

Done

对于ProgressDialogs

要防止对话框自动关闭，必须在显示ProgressDialog后设置OnClickListener，如下所示：

connectingDialog = new ProgressDialog(this);

connectingDialog.setCancelable(false);
connectingDialog.setCanceledOnTouchOutside(false);

// Create the button but set the listener to a null object.
connectingDialog.setButton(DialogInterface.BUTTON_NEGATIVE, "Cancel", 
        (DialogInterface.OnClickListener) null )

// Show the dialog so we can then get the button from the view.
connectingDialog.show();

// Get the button from the view.
Button dialogButton = connectingDialog.getButton( DialogInterface.BUTTON_NEGATIVE);

// Set the onClickListener here, in the view.
dialogButton.setOnClickListener( new View.OnClickListener() {

    @Override
    public void onClick ( View v ) {

        // Dialog will not get dismissed until you call dismiss() explicitly.

    }

});

编辑：这只适用于一些评论中提到的API 8+。

这是一个迟到的回答，但您可以在AlertDialog中添加一个onShowListener，然后可以覆盖按钮的onClickListener。

final AlertDialog dialog = new AlertDialog.Builder(context)
        .setView(v)
        .setTitle(R.string.my_title)
        .setPositiveButton(android.R.string.ok, null) //Set to null. We override the onclick
        .setNegativeButton(android.R.string.cancel, null)
        .create();

dialog.setOnShowListener(new DialogInterface.OnShowListener() {

    @Override
    public void onShow(DialogInterface dialogInterface) {

        Button button = ((AlertDialog) dialog).getButton(AlertDialog.BUTTON_POSITIVE);
        button.setOnClickListener(new View.OnClickListener() {

            @Override
            public void onClick(View view) {
                // TODO Do something

                //Dismiss once everything is OK.
                dialog.dismiss();
            }
        });
    }
});
dialog.show();

如果你使用的是材料设计，我建议你查看材料对话框。它为我修复了几个与当前打开的Android bug相关的问题（参见78088），但最重要的是，对于这个问题，它有一个autoDismiss标志，可以在使用生成器时设置。