你应该尝试非常有用的sp_whoIsActive过程，可以在这里找到:http://whoisactive.com，它是免费的。

建议查询sys视图。类似于

SELECT * 
FROM 
   sys.dm_exec_sessions s
   LEFT  JOIN sys.dm_exec_connections c
        ON  s.session_id = c.session_id
   LEFT JOIN sys.dm_db_task_space_usage tsu
        ON  tsu.session_id = s.session_id
   LEFT JOIN sys.dm_os_tasks t
        ON  t.session_id = tsu.session_id
        AND t.request_id = tsu.request_id
   LEFT JOIN sys.dm_exec_requests r
        ON  r.session_id = tsu.session_id
        AND r.request_id = tsu.request_id
   OUTER APPLY sys.dm_exec_sql_text(r.sql_handle) TSQL

通过这种方式，您可以获得TotalPagesAllocated，它可以帮助您计算出占用所有服务器资源的spid。很多时候，我甚至无法打开活动监视器并使用这些系统视图来查看发生了什么。

我建议你读下面这篇文章。我从这里得到了这个参考。

在2005年，你可以右键点击一个数据库，进入报告，那里有一个完整的报告列表，关于转换和锁等…

使用Sql Server Profiler(工具菜单)监视正在执行的查询，并使用Management studio中的活动监视器查看如何连接以及他们的连接是否阻塞其他连接。

你可以使用下面的查询来查找正在运行的最后一个请求:

SELECT
    der.session_id
    ,est.TEXT AS QueryText
    ,der.status
    ,der.blocking_session_id
    ,der.cpu_time
    ,der.total_elapsed_time
FROM sys.dm_exec_requests AS der
CROSS APPLY sys.dm_exec_sql_text(sql_handle) AS est

使用下面的脚本，你还可以找到每个数据库的连接数:

SELECT 
    DB_NAME(DBID) AS DataBaseName
    ,COUNT(DBID) AS NumberOfConnections
    ,LogiName 
FROM sys.sysprocesses
WHERE DBID > 0
GROUP BY DBID, LogiName

详情请浏览: http://www.dbrnd.com/2015/06/script-to-find-running-process-session-logged-user-in-sql-server/

试图把事情放在一起(希望有帮助):

SELECT
    p.spid,
    RIGHT(CONVERT(varchar, DATEADD(ms, DATEDIFF(ms, p.last_batch, GETDATE()), '1900-01-01'), 121), 12) AS [batch_duration],
    p.[program_name],
    p.hostname,
    MAX(p.loginame) AS loginame,
    (SELECT SUBSTRING(text, COALESCE(NULLIF(spid.stmt_start, 0), 1) + 1, CASE spid.stmt_end WHEN -1 THEN DATALENGTH(text) ELSE (spid.stmt_end - spid.stmt_start) END) FROM ::fn_get_sql(spid.[sql_handle])) AS [sql]
FROM
    master.dbo.sysprocesses p
    LEFT JOIN (
        SELECT
            ROW_NUMBER() OVER(PARTITION BY spid ORDER BY ecid) AS i,
            spid,
            [sql_handle],
            CASE stmt_start WHEN 0 THEN 0 ELSE stmt_start / 2 END AS stmt_start,
            CASE stmt_end WHEN -1 THEN -1 ELSE stmt_end / 2 END AS stmt_end
        FROM sys.sysprocesses
    ) spid ON p.spid = spid.spid AND spid.i = 1
WHERE
    p.spid > 50
    AND p.status NOT IN ('background', 'sleeping')
    AND p.cmd NOT IN ('AWAITING COMMAND', 'MIRROR HANDLER', 'LAZY WRITER', 'CHECKPOINT SLEEP', 'RA MANAGER')
GROUP BY
    p.spid,
    p.last_batch,
    p.[program_name],
    p.hostname,
    spid.stmt_start,
    spid.stmt_end,
    spid.[sql_handle]
ORDER BY
    batch_duration DESC,
    p.spid
;