我发现了一个非常简单易行的解决办法

    fun showDialog(){
    val dialog = Dialog(this@DialogActivity)
    dialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE)
    dialog.setCancelable(false)
    dialog.setContentView(R.layout.custom_dialog)
    val txtTitle = dialog.findViewById<TextView>(R.id.txtTitle)
    val btn  = dialog.findViewById<Button>(R.id.button)

    btn.setOnClickListener {
        Toast.makeText(this,"test",Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show()
    }
    txtTitle.setText("ali")
    dialog.show()

    val window = dialog.window
    window?.setLayout(WindowManager.LayoutParams.MATCH_PARENT,WindowManager.LayoutParams.WRAP_CONTENT)
}

你必须在显示之前设置对话框的高度和宽度(dialog.show())

所以，像这样做:

dialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height);

//then

dialog.show()

在对话框窗口上指定FILL_PARENT，就像其他人建议的那样，对我来说并不管用(在Android 4.0.4上)，因为它只是拉伸了黑色对话框背景来填充整个屏幕。

正常工作的方法是使用最小显示值，但在代码中指定它，以便对话框占用屏幕的90%。

So:

Activity activity = ...;
AlertDialog dialog = ...;

// retrieve display dimensions
Rect displayRectangle = new Rect();
Window window = activity.getWindow();
window.getDecorView().getWindowVisibleDisplayFrame(displayRectangle);

// inflate and adjust layout
LayoutInflater inflater = (LayoutInflater)activity.getSystemService(Context.LAYOUT_INFLATER_SERVICE);
View layout = inflater.inflate(R.layout.your_dialog_layout, null);
layout.setMinimumWidth((int)(displayRectangle.width() * 0.9f));
layout.setMinimumHeight((int)(displayRectangle.height() * 0.9f));

dialog.setView(layout);

一般来说，在大多数情况下，只调整宽度就足够了。

更简单的是这样做:

int width = (int)(getResources().getDisplayMetrics().widthPixels*0.90);
int height = (int)(getResources().getDisplayMetrics().heightPixels*0.90);

alertDialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height);

我发现了一个非常简单易行的解决办法

    fun showDialog(){
    val dialog = Dialog(this@DialogActivity)
    dialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE)
    dialog.setCancelable(false)
    dialog.setContentView(R.layout.custom_dialog)
    val txtTitle = dialog.findViewById<TextView>(R.id.txtTitle)
    val btn  = dialog.findViewById<Button>(R.id.button)

    btn.setOnClickListener {
        Toast.makeText(this,"test",Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show()
    }
    txtTitle.setText("ali")
    dialog.show()

    val window = dialog.window
    window?.setLayout(WindowManager.LayoutParams.MATCH_PARENT,WindowManager.LayoutParams.WRAP_CONTENT)
}

上面的许多答案都很好，但没有一个对我完全有效。所以我结合@nmr的答案得到了这个。

final Dialog d = new Dialog(getActivity());
        //  d.getWindow().setBackgroundDrawable(R.color.action_bar_bg);
        d.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);
        d.setContentView(R.layout.dialog_box_shipment_detail);

        WindowManager wm = (WindowManager) getActivity().getSystemService(Context.WINDOW_SERVICE); // for activity use context instead of getActivity()
        Display display = wm.getDefaultDisplay(); // getting the screen size of device
        Point size = new Point();
        display.getSize(size);
        int width = size.x - 20;  // Set your heights
        int height = size.y - 80; // set your widths

        WindowManager.LayoutParams lp = new WindowManager.LayoutParams();
        lp.copyFrom(d.getWindow().getAttributes());

        lp.width = width;
        lp.height = height;

        d.getWindow().setAttributes(lp);
        d.show();