上面的许多答案都很好，但没有一个对我完全有效。所以我结合@nmr的答案得到了这个。

final Dialog d = new Dialog(getActivity());
        //  d.getWindow().setBackgroundDrawable(R.color.action_bar_bg);
        d.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);
        d.setContentView(R.layout.dialog_box_shipment_detail);

        WindowManager wm = (WindowManager) getActivity().getSystemService(Context.WINDOW_SERVICE); // for activity use context instead of getActivity()
        Display display = wm.getDefaultDisplay(); // getting the screen size of device
        Point size = new Point();
        display.getSize(size);
        int width = size.x - 20;  // Set your heights
        int height = size.y - 80; // set your widths

        WindowManager.LayoutParams lp = new WindowManager.LayoutParams();
        lp.copyFrom(d.getWindow().getAttributes());

        lp.width = width;
        lp.height = height;

        d.getWindow().setAttributes(lp);
        d.show();

到目前为止我能想到的最简单的方法

如果你的对话框是由垂直线性布局组成的，只需添加一个“高度填充”虚拟视图，它将占据屏幕的整个高度。

例如:

<?xml version="1.0" encoding="utf-8"?>
<LinearLayout xmlns:android="http://schemas.android.com/apk/res/android"
          android:orientation="vertical"
          android:layout_width="match_parent"
          android:layout_height="match_parent"
          android:weightSum="1">

    <EditText
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="wrap_content"
       android:id="@+id/editSearch" />

    <ListView
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:id="@+id/listView"/>


   <!-- this is a dummy view that will make sure the dialog is highest -->
   <View
       android:layout_width="match_parent"
       android:layout_height="match_parent"
       android:layout_weight="1"/>

</LinearLayout>

注意LinearLayout属性中的android:weightSum="1"和dummy View属性中的android:layout_weight="1"

如果你正在使用约束布局，你可以在其中设置任何视图，以填充屏幕的百分比:

layout_constraintWidth_percent = " 0.8 "

例如，如果你在对话框中有一个ScrollView你想把它设置为屏幕高度的一个百分比。它是这样的:

<ScrollView
            android:id="@+id/scrollView"
            android:layout_width="match_parent"
            android:layout_height="0dp"
            app:layout_constraintHeight_percent="0.8">

希望它能帮助到一些人!!

我发现了一个非常简单易行的解决办法

    fun showDialog(){
    val dialog = Dialog(this@DialogActivity)
    dialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE)
    dialog.setCancelable(false)
    dialog.setContentView(R.layout.custom_dialog)
    val txtTitle = dialog.findViewById<TextView>(R.id.txtTitle)
    val btn  = dialog.findViewById<Button>(R.id.button)

    btn.setOnClickListener {
        Toast.makeText(this,"test",Toast.LENGTH_SHORT).show()
    }
    txtTitle.setText("ali")
    dialog.show()

    val window = dialog.window
    window?.setLayout(WindowManager.LayoutParams.MATCH_PARENT,WindowManager.LayoutParams.WRAP_CONTENT)
}

你必须在显示之前设置对话框的高度和宽度(dialog.show())

所以，像这样做:

dialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height);

//then

dialog.show()

    final AlertDialog alertDialog;

    LayoutInflater li = LayoutInflater.from(mActivity);
    final View promptsView = li.inflate(R.layout.layout_dialog_select_time, null);

    RecyclerView recyclerViewTime;
    RippleButton buttonDone;

    AlertDialog.Builder alertDialogBuilder = new AlertDialog.Builder(mActivity);
    alertDialogBuilder.setView(promptsView);

    // create alert dialog
    alertDialog = alertDialogBuilder.create();

    /**
     * setting up window design
     */
    alertDialog.requestWindowFeature(Window.FEATURE_NO_TITLE);


    alertDialog.show();

    DisplayMetrics metrics = new DisplayMetrics(); //get metrics of screen
    mActivity.getWindowManager().getDefaultDisplay().getMetrics(metrics);
    int height = (int) (metrics.heightPixels * 0.9); //set height to 90% of total
    int width = (int) (metrics.widthPixels * 0.9); //set width to 90% of total

    alertDialog.getWindow().setLayout(width, height); //set layout
    recyclerViewTime = promptsView.findViewById(R.id.recyclerViewTime);


    DialogSelectTimeAdapter dialogSelectTimeAdapter = new DialogSelectTimeAdapter(this);
    RecyclerView.LayoutManager linearLayoutManager = new LinearLayoutManager(this);
    recyclerViewTime.setLayoutManager(linearLayoutManager);
    recyclerViewTime.setAdapter(dialogSelectTimeAdapter);

    buttonDone = promptsView.findViewById(R.id.buttonDone);
    buttonDone.setOnClickListener(new View.OnClickListener() {
        @Override
        public void onClick(View view) {

            alertDialog.dismiss();

        }
    });