这就是最后对我有用的方法:

binding.rows.addItemDecoration(object: RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {
    val px = resources.getDimensionPixelSize(R.dimen.grid_spacing)
    val spanCount = 2

    override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView, state: RecyclerView.State) {
        val index = parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view)
        val isLeft = (index % spanCount == 0)
        outRect.set(
            if (isLeft) px else px/2,
            0,
            if (isLeft) px/2 else px,
            px
        )
    }
})

因为我只有2列(val spanCount = 2)，我可以只做isLeft。如果有> 2列，那么我也需要一个isMiddle，两边的值都是px/2。

我希望有一种方法来获得应用程序:spanCount从直接从RecyclerView，但我不相信有。

我根据edwardaa的回答做了一个Kotlin版本

class RecyclerItemDecoration(private val spanCount: Int, private val spacing: Int) : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {

  override fun getItemOffsets(outRect: Rect, view: View, parent: RecyclerView, state: RecyclerView.State) {

    val spacing = Math.round(spacing * parent.context.resources.displayMetrics.density)
    val position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view)
    val column = position % spanCount

    outRect.left = spacing - column * spacing / spanCount
    outRect.right = (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount

    outRect.top = if (position < spanCount) spacing else 0
    outRect.bottom = spacing
  }

}

RecyclerViews支持ItemDecoration的概念:围绕每个元素的特殊偏移和绘图。从这个答案中可以看出，你可以使用

public class SpacesItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {
  private int space;

  public SpacesItemDecoration(int space) {
    this.space = space;
  }

  @Override
  public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, 
      RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {
    outRect.left = space;
    outRect.right = space;
    outRect.bottom = space;

    // Add top margin only for the first item to avoid double space between items
    if (parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view) == 0) {
        outRect.top = space;
    } else {
        outRect.top = 0;
    }
  }
}

然后通过

mRecyclerView = (RecyclerView) rootView.findViewById(R.id.my_recycler_view);
int spacingInPixels = getResources().getDimensionPixelSize(R.dimen.spacing);
mRecyclerView.addItemDecoration(new SpacesItemDecoration(spacingInPixels));

class VerticalGridSpacingDecoration(private val spacing: Int) : RecyclerView.ItemDecoration() {

  override fun getItemOffsets(
    outRect: Rect,
    view: View,
    parent: RecyclerView,
    state: State
  ) {
    val layoutManager = parent.layoutManager as? GridLayoutManager
    if (layoutManager == null || layoutManager.orientation != VERTICAL) {
      return super.getItemOffsets(outRect, view, parent, state)
    }

    val spanCount = layoutManager.spanCount
    val position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view)
    val column = position % spanCount
    with(outRect) {
      left = if (column == 0) 0 else spacing / 2
      right = if (column == spanCount.dec()) 0 else spacing / 2
      top = if (position < spanCount) 0 else spacing
    }
  }
}

复制@edwardaa提供的代码，我使它完美地支持RTL:

public class GridSpacingItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {
    private int spanCount;
    private int spacing;
    private boolean includeEdge;
    private int headerNum;
    private boolean isRtl = TextUtilsCompat.getLayoutDirectionFromLocale(Locale.getDefault()) == ViewCompat.LAYOUT_DIRECTION_RTL;

    public GridSpacingItemDecoration(int spanCount, int spacing, boolean includeEdge, int headerNum) {
        this.spanCount = spanCount;
        this.spacing = spacing;
        this.includeEdge = includeEdge;
        this.headerNum = headerNum;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view, RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {
        int position = parent.getChildAdapterPosition(view) - headerNum; // item position
        if (position >= 0) {
            int column = position % spanCount; // item column
            if(isRtl) {
                column = spanCount - 1 - column;
            }
            if (includeEdge) {
                outRect.left = spacing - column * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
                outRect.right = (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // (column + 1) * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)

                if (position < spanCount) { // top edge
                    outRect.top = spacing;
                }
                outRect.bottom = spacing; // item bottom
            } else {
                outRect.left = column * spacing / spanCount; // column * ((1f / spanCount) * spacing)
                outRect.right = spacing - (column + 1) * spacing / spanCount; // spacing - (column + 1) * ((1f /    spanCount) * spacing)
                if (position >= spanCount) {
                    outRect.top = spacing; // item top
                }
            }
        } else {
            outRect.left = 0;
            outRect.right = 0;
            outRect.top = 0;
            outRect.bottom = 0;
        }
    }
}

这是我对SpacesItemDecoration的修改，它可以在顶部，底部，左边和右边同样采取numofcolumns和空间。

public class SpacesItemDecoration extends RecyclerView.ItemDecoration {
    private int space;
    private int mNumCol;

    public SpacesItemDecoration(int space, int numCol) {
        this.space = space;
        this.mNumCol=numCol;
    }

    @Override
    public void getItemOffsets(Rect outRect, View view,
                               RecyclerView parent, RecyclerView.State state) {

        //outRect.right = space;
        outRect.bottom = space;
        //outRect.left = space;

        //Log.d("ttt", "item position" + parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view));
        int position=parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view);

        if(mNumCol<=2) {
            if (position == 0) {
                outRect.left = space;
                outRect.right = space / 2;
            } else {
                if ((position % mNumCol) != 0) {
                    outRect.left = space / 2;
                    outRect.right = space;
                } else {
                    outRect.left = space;
                    outRect.right = space / 2;
                }
            }
        }else{
            if (position == 0) {
                outRect.left = space;
                outRect.right = space / 2;
            } else {
                if ((position % mNumCol) == 0) {
                    outRect.left = space;
                    outRect.right = space/2;
                } else if((position % mNumCol) == (mNumCol-1)){
                    outRect.left = space/2;
                    outRect.right = space;
                }else{
                    outRect.left=space/2;
                    outRect.right=space/2;
                }
            }

        }

        if(position<mNumCol){
            outRect.top=space;
        }else{
            outRect.top=0;
        }
        // Add top margin only for the first item to avoid double space between items
        /*
        if (parent.getChildLayoutPosition(view) == 0 ) {

        } else {
            outRect.top = 0;
        }*/
    }
}

并在逻辑上使用下面的代码。

recyclerView.addItemDecoration(new SpacesItemDecoration(spacingInPixels, numCol));